You Do You

Selfishly, stupidly, I never knew this was a problem. I grew up thinking I was pretty great. But then I realised some of the people I thought were great, didn't think it about themselves. I didn't like that at all.

Blame it on an over inflated ego, a doting mother or perhaps pure ignorance, but I like who I am. Blame it on the media, the television or perhaps the people surrounding you because a lot of people don’t.

Know your own worth. An analogy might help with this one. I am the cup of tea you chose to drink and not the one you gulped before it went cold. I am worth your time and attention. But I am under no illusion, I'm not everyone's cup of tea. I might be your glass of water that's been sat on the side for days. In which case, pour me away. Bye, it wasn't meant to be. I don’t need, want or care for your opinion as you don’t for mine. I know that I am valuable. But maybe you don’t like tea. Maybe I could have thought of a better example.

Confidence is not arrogance. Saying that you like your hair or that you think you’re smart is fine. Believing in yourself is a positive thing and don’t let people take that from you. From my experience, this can be met with comments on how you lack modesty and that arrogance isn't attractive (real life things that I have been told), but don’t let it phase you. People will try and tear you down, but those people are not worth your time. Also, this goes hand in hand with something I live by, fake it til you make it. Act confidently and gradually, at least in my case, you start to feel it.

You don't have to be perfect. I am a mess. I want you to know that I cry sometimes when I have to go on a driving lesson. I check myself out in every mirror I pass. The scab on my ankle is from where I keep accidentally kicking my feet whilst I walk to school because even that can be a struggle at 8 in the morning. I need you to understand that the other night I couldn't sleep so I Googled the Kardashians for hours. I need that acceptance because I love myself in spite of all these things.

I am in love. I am in love with myself and I don’t think that's a bad thing.